How to explain abduction without scaring your child

How to explain abduction without scaring your child

This is what happens

when you don't teach your kids safety rules

Let's talk abduction - so that our kids never face it

My preschooler broke a safety rule that I did not teach him.

How can I explain abduction way he could understand?

We were in a park. I was walking to my car with Dill rolling his bike. Tek and Al were following. It was getting dark. The cars were leaving the parking lot. My phone rang:

- “Is he with you?” my husband asked.

- “Yes, he is.”

- “I mean are BOTH KIDS with you?”

“What do you mean by BOTH? I have Dill, Tek was with you!” I tried to keep calm. My hands shivered, and Dill looked up at me.

- “Tek not here. He was riding his bike around the playground and now I can’t see him.” My husband was out of breath from running.

Dill and I dropped the bike and sprinted back to the parking lot, yelling and checking everything.

I looked in the bathrooms, on the parking lot, on the playground, on the tennis courts, on the trail, on the field, in the pavilions – everywhere. He wasn’t there. The cars left the parking lot one by one.

 - “Should I call the police now or should we make one more round running?” I wondered. One scary thought ran after another.

- What if he’s in trouble? What if he’s suffering? He’s just a little boy. What if I never see him again?”

How to explain abduction without scaring your child - kids safety rules
How to explain abduction without scaring your child - kids safety rules

This is what happened

The phone rang again:

“He’s here. I found him!” – I could barely hear my husband’s voice over our son crying in the background.

I let the out the breath I’d been holding, and the tears dropped on my cheeks.

We were not idiots letting kids run around the park at night while we checked our social media feeds.

Most parents have some scary moment to remember forever:

Kids run off in an unknown direction with their new friends, ride their bikes way too far, hide in the store, or just walk away without paying attention and get lost.

A break-through moment on keeping kids safe

When we all stopped crying and hugging between the leaving cars, I asked

- “How did you get here?”

- “I was riding my bike around the playground. I was chasing a squirrel. I thought you went to the parking lot,” he said.

He was riding too fast. He went to the wrong parking lot. He started looking for the right one and got lost.

 

- “Why didn’t you tell us where you were going?”  I asked, wanting to kick myself – I hadn’t taught him this rule yet.

2 big safety mistake parents make with young kids

2 dangerous safety mistakes that parents make while teaching kids safety - post cover - boy smiling

I thought that at 4 years old my son was way too young to be required to share his plans before leaving.

How wrong I was.

Mistake #1: Not teaching safety rules early enough and low level of safety skills were half the problem (you can test your child's safety score here).

Mistake #2: The other half was how to explain the worst safety topic ever in an age-appropriate way without scaring him.

A simple solution for explaining abduction to young kids

Abduction bothers you more than your kids. Abduction by strangers are less common than those committed by people that kids know or "kinda" know.

Related article: Why stranger danger is not working and what to do instead.

The idea came when we were reading a book of classic fairy-tales.

I saw a gingerbread man on a picture singing:

“I can run away from you, I can. Run, run as fast as you can. You can't catch me, I'm the gingerbread man!” -

“Do you see the gingerbread man?” – I asked my son.

- “Yes.”

- “Is he behaving the way he is supposed to be?”

- “No. He ran away from the parents and the fox ate him.”

- “Let’s agree that if you’re going to leave, you tell me before you go, okay? So that if you need help, I’m around.”

- “Okay.”

We also talked about Little Red Riding Hood, Aladdin, Thumbelina, and Rapunzel where kids were kept somewhere forcefully.

It wasn’t so scary to talk about abduction, mean adults, and dangerous mistakes when it was happening to a character in a book.

Kids understand and remember safety rules applied to a story they can relate to.

Check how we've used those stories:

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"How to teach kids about abduction in a non-scary way using stories,  books and cartoons"

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How to use cartoons for teaching kids safety - post cover - red riding hood and a wolf

An algorithm to use with 3 classic stories:

- Little Red Riding Hood

- Thumbelina

- Rapunzel

+ Aladdin

To discuss

- Abduction

- The importance of following the safety rules

- The consequences of breaking them

On these examples you will learn how to use almost any story, cartoon or life situation to teach safety.

+ Explain this super sensitive topic in a delicate, neutral way without feeling scared or scaring your child.

Well, instead of dreading teaching this subject,

I am now looking forward to starting it. - Liz T, mom

How to use everyday situations to teach kids safety

When you keep in mind kids’ safety rules yourself, you’ll see examples to teach them everywhere in your life.

The best way kids learn is by playing and experiencing the lessons.

That’s what we do in our training – kids learn how to respond properly to challenging situations while in a safe environment that you can control.

You don’t need to fake any situations. You’ll be able to use opportunities in your everyday life by just paying attention to them, and including stories, games, books, movies, and cartoons you already know.

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Because when your child breaks a safety rule he didn’t know, it may be too late to teach the rule.

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